Mums make us feel valued every day of the year, so Mother’s Day is the perfect time to give back and appreciate the special women in our life. If you are a mother yourself, take the opportunity to recognize your own value and allow yourself to feel proud of the work you do day-to-day.
Total Love & Care (TLC)
After a year of juggling kids, work, and chores, it is time to treat yourself to a day full of activities you enjoy. Never take yourself for granted and remember all the reasons the people in your life adore you. Although mums deserve the world, today, at the very least, you can give yourself some much-needed TLC!
Stay in The Moment
Staying grounded among the chaos of motherhood can seem like an impossible task, but if you take a second to be present with your family, it can be a joyful reminder of the beauty of parenthood. There are a lot of pressures and expectations that can make you feel buried, but amidst the cloud of responsibility, they are the light that keeps you going.
On this special day, don’t let yourself get caught up with to-do lists, and instead plan a family fun day! Have an impromptu picnic with some fun custom covers and bright decorations, or have an outdoor movie marathon. Whatever you decide, remember to treasure the little moments before it’s too late.
Dreams Don’t Stop at Motherhood
Dreaming is believing. And before you ask, no we don’t mean pulling down your premium quality cellular shades or clean room curtains for a mid afternoon nap. After an extended period of time caring deeply for others, the goals you had once been dead set on achieving may seem impossibly out of reach.
Even though motherhood feels like a 9 to 5 job, your aspirations are still viable and worthy of pursuing. Pay close attention to your own dreams and allow yourself to nurture those small things as much as you do everything else in your life.
Focus on You First
Putting all the focus on yourself may indulge a sense of guilt within your mind. This, however, is just a symptom of being accustomed to putting everyone else’s needs above your own. Trust and believe that those around you can and will survive without your undivided attention. Your dreams deserve the chance to thrive. You deserve to be happy. Make the point to strive for greatness.
Learn to Say No
Helping out a friend or doing a favour for a family member can be second nature when motherhood takes hold of you. It seems like it’s the right thing to do, to put everyone else above yourself. This, however, is a misconception that is easily solved by learning to say two simple letters: “no.”
Those who care about you should understand that you have a busy schedule and need a break every once and a while. Taking care of yourself, mind, body, and all, only allows you to have the freedom to lend a helping hand in the future.
Rest and Recharge
When was the last time you have felt truly rested? Mums are always on the go, from the second they wake up to the second their heads hit the pillow to sleep – even sometimes dreaming of the tasks for the following day. Even though you feel wrapped up in the needs of others, allow yourself to recognize your needs.
No More Chores
This Mother’s Day, it is time to stop worrying about chores like picking up groceries and replacing the chair covers, and find a moment to relax and find peace. Take a rejuvenating bath, go for a hike, or binge your favorite TV show. Find your sanctuary, and bask in its tranquility. This day is your time to relax and recharge, so you are ready to tackle anything!
Rediscover Your Passions
So you finally have a second to yourself but after years of prioritizing others, you have forgotten the activities you used to enjoy. Take this as an opportunity to get to know yourself again by trying different things and discovering new hobbies!
Explore Something New
Maybe you want to explore fresh methods of making your favorite dish or finally learn that language you’ve always loved. You might instead prefer something more laid back like going for a walk or painting. Even spending quality time with your family and planning a trip could be the fun you’ve been looking for. Whatever reignites a spark of joy is worth exploring in order to find balance.
Healthy and Happy
Mums are superheroes, but even Wonder Woman has her bad days. There is so much pressure to be perfect and that is especially true of mothers, so often it is hard to admit when their mental health is suffering. Do not be afraid to reach out to loved ones for the support you always give them.
Sometimes it just takes a few days of rest to recharge and focus on priorities, but other times the world can feel too overwhelming to handle. In these cases, it may be best to seek professional help. No one expects you to do it all alone because even superheroes need a hand sometimes.
Patience is a Virtue
Being a parent is hard. You can read all the books in the world and still feel lost. Many women are pressured to maintain a facade of perfection because of the stereotypes of womanhood that they have grown up with. There is no such thing as perfection, so be kind to yourself and never compare yourself to others.
Mistakes are inevitable, but they help us learn and grow. When you are feeling defeated, take a moment to look back at all you have accomplished. It is in those instances you realize the value of your mistakes. Give yourself permission to feel proud of how far you have come and be grateful for each stepping stone it took to get there.
Take a Breath
Life moves fast. One moment you have kids running around, playing with toys and screaming in excitement, then suddenly, they are going to college, getting married, and having kids of their own. Yes, parenthood and motherhood, especially, can be hectic and overwhelming, but under the chaos it is a gift.
Before you decide to lock yourself in a closet when the world seems to be crumbling down, just remember to pause and take a breath. Look around at the family you have built and the joy they bring you. Mother’s Day is not only a day to appreciate the wonderful mums in our lives, but also a reminder of the value that motherhood has brought us. Happy Mother’s Day!